Society.. Aha!!!

Dad: Don't be so rude to the people who are supporting us
Me: What crap dad, these people from the so called society are good for nothing!! (Enraged tone)
Dad: Son, this is the society that we live in and we have to support each other and that is the what creates the brotherhood.
Me: Dad, I do not believe it, few days back when we were in need none of these guys came forward and supported our view rather they wanted us to compromise. Why should I support them.
Dad: That was their view point, we don't have to accept it. But feel good that they have cared enough to share their view point. Is it not what is important that you are being cared for.
Me: Sorry not my kind of society, what use is these kind of view points that have no value, I do not care for the society. I will go ahead with what I think is good.
Dad: You are young and hot blooded, give it some time and you will know what I am intending you to see...
Me: May be... may be not.. I don't care (Left the room thumping with anger)

This was some 20 years back when I suppose I was in my prime of teenage. It was then and now, I seem to have fully reckoned with what my dad tried me to look at..

Off late when one had to travel on official purpose, family being at the base location is something very normal to recon with. Though one travels off to different places, the safety and well being of the family is always on the back of the mind. I am for sure that my better half is well equipped to manage her self and our son. But, recently while travelling realised that both of them were down with severe viral and were not able to move much, and me to reach back would take at least one more day. Though a few of my friends knew about their sickness but not many were aware. By the time I reached home, my son was on a recovery mode and wife was still struggling. To add to the trouble, I had also got bitten by the viral bug and rendered me immobile. The few days that followed was very touching, help just kept pouring in from all quarters from within the apartment complex. People from whom I never expected and some whom I expected. The most important part was the fact when people come and start caring for you. Those words of comfort, a simple gesture of care was more than enough. Irrespective of our differences in thoughts, they were there and I suppose that is what Society is all about.

People come and care for you. You may have differences of thoughts and opinions with them. But when there is a crisis that you are dealing with, they are the ones who come and stand by your side. I think Dad, I have started to realise that the society is much larger that what I could imagine and there is much more than what meets the eye..

The journey has just begun, I hope I become the extended arm of this expansive society...

हर पल

हर पल में ज़िन्दगी बदलती है । 
हर पल, हर पल बदलती है॥ 
में बदलूं  या ना बदलूं।  
यह पल बदलता है॥ 

हर पल की नज़ाकत को समझ। 
उन लम्हों को एहसास कर॥ 
पानी की तरह बहता जा। 
अपने उन पलों को समेटता ज॥ 

हर मोड़ पे एक नई पहचान बना। 
हर रिश्ते में एक नयापन ला॥ 
छोड़ चल अपनी परछाईयों को। 
समेट ले उस नये यादों को॥ 

कुछ ख़ुशी के पल देता जा। 
उन ग़मों को भूलता जा॥ 
एक खटै मिठास सी सुरुवात है। 
घोलता जा अपने उन नये पलों में॥ 

हर पल में ज़िन्दगी बदलती है । 
हर पल, हर पल बदलती है॥ 

Love thy Child

As the plane halted for disembarkation, heard the sweet voice of the hostesses saying it being safe to switch on your cell phone and get back to the chaotic lives of the city.. blah.. blah... A few mins later my attention was grabbed by an over excited mother (I think speaking to her kid, after having spoken to her family member of her arrival and plane being landed) on the cell phone a few seats away from mine. I was captivated by the communication that went on:

Mother (M) -  Tell me my sweetheart, what do you want.... Don't be shy, tell your mama..
Child (C) - Ice cream

M - "NO", it is raining and cold out there (I peeped out of the window, to find a clear sky and wondered the city being cold!!!).. you will catch fever, no no..

M - Tell me what do want, don't be shy my sweet heart, tell your mama.. she will get it.. tell me...
C - Chocolate
M - You know, you should not eat chocolates, it is bad for health and teeth. You should reduce it.. No No.. not good for you.

After a few seconds of silence..

M - Tell me sweety, what do you want.. your mama will get it (Mothers can be persistent.. I must say!!!)

I think the child was confused by now as I heard only silence... more so, thank God the crowd started to move...

M (now on a hasty note) - Don't be shy, tell me... Ok, will buy some toys and come.. ok... now bye, see you at home.

The mother got up from the seat and started to move, that is when I saw the lovable mother had a toy box in her hand for her sweet heard kid...

This got me wondering..

At Office - The management asks us through various surveys what the employee wants but ends up giving what is decided. Is the Mother also replicating her stand at home.

As Parents - are we raising the expectation and then spoiling the dreams that our kids could have had because of our raising expectations. When they get used to breaking of their dreams and getting what we have for them, at a ripe age we then ask them... "Why don't you dream and achieve it??".. Are we being fair to it..

It was a momentous truth that seemed to have hit me.. also, on second thoughts, are we playing our parents, or we being ourselves...

Little things of joy!!!

Oh boy!! Sitting and watching the rain come down is so so wonderful. .

 

For me it seems to be so therapeutic, the dark skies and the little drops coming down.. makes me think when was the last time that I just sat down and just admired the beauty of nature.

 

There has been times that one keeps running so hard and there seems so much to do or achieve that do we tend to miss the little little things around us ignore.

 

I ask myself when was it that:

 

  * I walked on the grass barefoot
  * Just sat down watching the sun go down
  * listened to my music with my eyes half closed.
  * Cooked my food at leisure for some one I love
  * Watched my kid play without any interference.
  * Just look at my spouse and quietly tell her "I Love You"
  * Read my book and then dreamt about the pages.
  * Have not strive to impress someone else but my self alone. .

 

Oh I think my list can go on... and am sure all of us have a list for ourselves to reduce our pace of life and enjoy life as it comes... :-)